May I Have Your Attention Please…

It amazes me the lengths people go to to get noticed. I mean really is it that serious? Or is it even that important? Especially if you are attracting the wrong kind of attention. Don’t get me wrong getting noticed or being paid attention to is not a bad thing, it’s how you get or what you did to get that attention. For example, recently I went to a concert and noticed a heavier bodied young lady with shorts on that could probably give her a yeast infection. And I’m a firm believer of getting your sexy on however it’s just some things you just shouldn’t do or wear! Trust me I’m far from a hater. I can appreciate a women who exudes sex appeal. But if I were that young ladies friend I would have definitely kept it real with her. Again Rihanna wore a revealing ensemble recently to an awards ceremony. I guess this is expected of her because that wouldn’t have been the first time she decided to show/share her assets. But still is that what you want young women to see? Is this truly how you want to attract attention you so early seek? Going to such lengths for 5 minutes of fame never made sense to me. And it never will! I assume if celebrities will go to such lengths mediocre folks like myslef will do just as much. But let me say this….never lose your integrity for the spotlight. Even if it’s for a few seconds. Know your worth! Know your value! Know what abilities you have that will get you the right kind/type of attention! Because surely selling your soul won’t achieve what you are looking for in the grand scheme of things!

Happy Monday Folks! 🙂

~Mzz Nette

To Commit or Not To Commit…

 

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Ok so I’ve never had to deal with a man not committing to me. Probably because I’ve always made myself clear about wanting to eventually be in a relationship. However, if I’m just casually dating a man I don’t bring up the ‘r’ word. I just enjoy what we’ve made it. It was funny to come across this article written by Madame Noire about signs that point to why your man will never commit. Here they are:

 

  1. He NEVER gets jealous
  2. He is rigid about his schedule
  3. He doesn’t invite you, when other girlfriends went
  4. He has a lot of activities he keeps to himself
  5. He won’t fight with you
  6. He won’t accept help from your family
  7. He tells you he’s made big decisions; he doesn’t ask you
  8. He wanders off at social events
  9. He’s pushy about sex
  10. He has excuses not to do you favors

 

Madame Noir provides an explanation for each reason and also mentions why most women ignore these reasons. And I had to chuckle at a few of them. Probably because I’ve had to deal with a few myself 🙂 But in all honesty I guess I would feel some kind of way if the guy I’m dating didn’t get jealous (reason # 1) if I was pushing up on some other man or if I mentioned how cute/handsome/fione (yes I said fione instead of fine lol) another man was. But jealousy isn’t for everyone so that reason didn’t constitute as a sign for me. Matter of fact I didn’t think a lot of these reasons were signs that he wouldn’t commit. Reasons # 5 and # 6 both seem like they can be character traits not necessarily reasons why he won’t commit. However, reasons # 2 and  # 3 (in my opinion) are legit. If his schedule is too rigid to make time/room for you there’s a problem. And if there are ‘couples’ outings, he’s in attendance and you aren’t invited as his plus 1…umm trust me he’s probably not interested in committing. You can decide for yourself if the other reasons hold any weight.

 

What are your thoughts? Especially to the men…I’m curious to know if some of you actually agree with this list. We all can guess that this article was probably written by a woman. 🙂 Leave your comments and thoughts below!

 

~Mzz Nette

 

P.S. Want to read Madame Noire’s full article?

Click here -> http://madamenoire.com/338006/signs-hell-never-commit/