Last night I had a real heart to heart conversation about love. A person shared with me that they get in trouble whenever a person falls in love with them. So of course I asked, what do you mean by that? They responded that whenever folks fall in love, there is a level of expectation that is created. And when they begin to do things “out of love”, they expect the same in return. This conversation actually had me in my thoughts all night and all morning. Asking myself, “do you actually know the true meaning of love?” and “do you honestly know how to truly love?” To be completely honest I don’t know that I ever did or ever have. And if I did, I don’t believe it was to the extent at which I define love now.
I truly believe the act of love is what 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 tells us in the bible. That love is patient and kind. It does not envy or boast. It is not arrogant or rude and it does not insist on its own way. It’s not irritable or resentful and it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things. I’ve read these verses so many times before but it was not until last night that I actually let the words sink into my spirit. All I can say is WOW!
When I think of God’s love for me it reminds me that he paid a debt that I can never repay. When he gave his life for me there were no expectations for me to give my life in return. It was only to follow his commandments and love others just as much as he loves me. Love is truly a self-less act. It is to give and to expect nothing in return. I believe when there is no level of expectation there is no level of disappointment.
In my opinion, this is probably the realist and most heartfelt post I’ve ever written. And it’s probably a post that I will use for accountability purposes now and forever. I will end with these words: Lord my wish is that I can truly learn what it means to love wholeheartedly . To not set a limit on my love. To not keep score. To set an example of how I wish to be loved. To love others the way you love me. To love others despite what they say or do. Ultimately, to love unconditionally!
Locs, Love, Life!