ThrowBack Thursday!!

Happy Spring Folks!! I don’t know about anyone else but for some reason when spring comes around I get into this cleaning/purging frenzy. I overly clean my house, get rid of old clothes and a bunch of things that I really don’t need. Since today is Thursday I think it’s fit to implement a ThrowBack Thursday.

One thing I’ve learned about myself is that I am a picture hoarder. I don’t know why I never like to delete pictures but I have had over 3,000 pictures on my phone at one time, 🙈🙈. And I am ashamed to say this but over half of those pictures are selfies…*don’t judge me lol*.  Anyways as I was deleting hundreds of pictures off my phone when I came across the photo below. It brought a smile to my face. It was the day after I chopped off all of my relaxed hair and joined the Natural Hair Community.

 

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Oh what a joy it was to have no hair worries. To wake up and just go. It was a great time in my life because it felt like a fresh start. However, I got the harshest feedback as well. I remember my Father saying how God had given me beautiful hair and now I’m bald. And that he didn’t even recognize me because I looked like a boy. 😭 😭 😭   Oh that comment hit me to my core and I cried for a couple of days afterwards. Eventually the look grew on me and everyone else. After all it was just hair and surely it would grow back. I can honestly say it was one of the best hair decisions I could have made. And I would do it again in a heartbeat.  😊😊.

Locs, Love, Life!

~Mzz Nette

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My Lesson On Love!

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Last night I had a real heart to heart conversation about love. A person shared with me that they get in trouble whenever a person falls in love with them. So of course I asked, what do you mean by that? They responded that whenever folks fall in love, there is a level of expectation that is created. And when they begin to do things “out of love”, they expect the same in return. This conversation actually had me in my thoughts all night and all morning. Asking myself, “do you actually know the true meaning of love?” and “do you honestly know how to truly love?” To be completely honest I don’t know that I ever did or ever have. And if I did, I don’t believe it was to the extent at which I define love now.

I truly believe the act of love is what 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 tells us in the bible. That love is patient and kind. It does not envy or boast. It is not arrogant or rude and it does not insist on its own way. It’s not irritable or resentful and it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things. I’ve read these verses so many times before but it was not until last night that I actually let the words sink into my spirit. All I can say is WOW!

When I think of God’s love for me it reminds me that he paid a debt that I can never repay. When he gave his life for me there were no expectations for me to give my life in return. It was only to follow his commandments and love others just as much as he loves me. Love is truly a self-less act. It is to give and to expect nothing in return. I believe when there is no level of expectation there is no level of disappointment.

In my opinion, this is probably the realist and most heartfelt post I’ve ever written. And it’s probably a post that I will use for accountability purposes now and forever. I will end with these words: Lord my wish is that I can truly learn what it means to love wholeheartedly . To not set a limit on my love. To not keep score. To set an example of how I wish to be loved. To love others the way you love me. To love others despite what they say or do. Ultimately, to love unconditionally!

Locs, Love, Life!

~Mzz Nette

Hidden Figures: A Must See!!

This weekend I had the opportunity to watch Hidden Figures. I remember seeing the previews for this movie a couple of months ago and I could not wait for it to come out. After hearing great reviews about it and actually watching it for myself, I can truly say that I was not disappointed. This movie had my emotions all over the place, happy, angry, sad, excited, to name a few. It’s rare (at least for me) for a movie to evoke that many emotions in a span of a couple of hours. It was simply amazing!

It was befitting for me to watch Hidden Figures on this past weekend because it, in conjunction to Martin Luther King Day, reminded me how far we have come. Reminds me of how hard our ancestors had to fight for us to have the opportunities we have today.  It was a reminder that we should continue to fight for these opportunities and never take for granted those blessings we currently have. Let’s never forget how far we have come and how far we have to go!

Locs, Love, Life!

~Mzz Nette

Did you miss me?!

Man, it has been a minute (well not literally a minute but you understand what I’m trying to say lol) since I’ve posted on this blog. And honestly, I have no valid excuse as to why I have not made an attempt to post. I told myself I would do better but the lazier side of me won.  So as I have said in the past…I will do better!!! 🙂

To begin, Happy New Year!! I hope your new year has started off amazingly well and I hope this year is good to you. I actually look forward to what this year will possibly bring. I can’t say my 2016 was a great year. Many lessons learned and I definitely had some growth opportunities. I am just grateful I made it through.

Do you make New Year’s resolutions? I typically don’t. Simply because I would make them and then by like March I would forget all about accomplishing them. Sad huh?! Nowadays I try to make conscious efforts to do/be better. Like learning a new fact daily. Or committing to reading an entire book (this can be hard for me because I sometimes have the attention span of a child). Helping a friend in need. Or calling my loved ones more often. At times reading my short term and long term goals (as a reminder of the things I need to do to achieve them). Or even re-visiting a dusty old vision board. For me, conscious reminders are just as important as setting goals. In my eyes, as long as you are making an attempt to be better today than you were yesterday, its one more step towards being a greater you.

So cheers to the new year! To new lessons, new growth opportunities, new reminders and new memories! 💋 😘

Locs, Love, Life!

~Mzz Nette

Let Go and Let God!

Happy New Year my good people. I’m ashamed that it has taken me this long to say this to you all but hey better late than never. 😊

The saying “If you want to make God laugh tell him your plans!” is spot on. We make plans for ourselves and then get disappointed when things don’t go our way. You ever wonder why? My guess is that they weren’t your plans to make in the first place. I can say I’m guilty of this. Planning this, planning that but rarely ever asking the man upstairs to plan it for me. So one of my new things this year is to truly “Let Go and Let God!” Maybe then I won’t set myself up for huge disappointments. Cause at the end of the day his plans will always be greater and better than my own. 😊

Locs, Love, Life!

~Mzz Nette

This Too Shall Pass!

Greetings Virtual Friends!

The last month in my life has been really tough for me. Despite celebrating 2 new milestones in my life, other aspects of it just wasn’t falling into place. I had to make some hard decisions about how I was going to make it through. Decisions that would affect my future but would be well worth making. In the midst of my trial I found myself complaining, feeling down and even doubting my worth. Then I saw this:

Inspiration

We have to learn to take our focus off our problems and re-focus on what we want the outcome to be. Some things/thoughts/people are not worth the mental power. They aren’t worth the energy it takes to even keep them relevant. Reading this reminded me that I was giving into my situation verses letting it be a thing of the past. Found myself letting it mutate my thoughts and self worth. Let this post be an inspiration for you. Let it be a reminder that (as cliche as this sounds) there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Turn your test into a testimony. I know I will. 🙂

2 Corinthians 4: 17-18 “For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long.  Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever.  So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather, we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen.  For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever.”

Locs, Love, Life!

~Mzz Nette

It’s My Anniversary!!

Good Morning My Good People!

This post is long overdue but better late than never! 🙂 In June I celebrated my 2 year loc anniversary!!! It still amazes me that I’ve actually kept them in this long. But every day I fall more and more in love with them and remain very proud of my decision to loc my hair. Below are some updates:

1. I no longer band and/or braid (if you are a Sisterlocker you will know exactly what this means).

2. I can now use moisturizer (which is awesome because dry hair/scalp is no bueno!!).

3. I now have some hang time (yes LAWD! I can throw these babies in a ponytail and have some hangage lol).

4. I am not fully locked yet. The shafts of my strands are fully locked however my ends have not sealed yet.

5. My re-tightenings are every 6 weeks ( I started off with every 4 weeks).

6. I still get slippage. That’s primarily because of my hair texture, so in essence this will be inevitable for me.

7. Curls are my bestfriends (primarily because I have a sensitive scalp and most updos give me a headache).

8. Comparison pictures are below.

Left: 4 months           Right: 2 yrs

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I hope you enjoyed the update in my journey. Leave a comment if you so choose! 🙂

Locs, Love, Life!

~Mzz Nette