Wisdom Wednesday: Maturity

Good Morning Virtual Family!

In an attempt to hold myself accountable to my blog I’ve decided to implement 3 new themes, which I am actually very excited about. On any given week I’ll either do a Motivational Monday, Wisdom Wednesday or Flashback Friday!! As cliche as they may seem, I think it will be fun to come up with something that will either make you laugh, think or simply make you smile.

To kick off this new theme today I’m sharing this meme for Wisdom Wednesday.

Wisdom Wed Meme

As I’ve gotten older this meme has become my truth and I’ve accepted it. My peace of mind, self-respect, values, morals and self worth are more important to me than holding on to a person that threatens any one of them. I’ve learned that some folks weren’t meant to stay. They are meant to play their role for the time they are in your life and they will either be a lesson or blessing. Either way, accept it for what it is and continue to live in your truth, life will be much easier that way.  😊

Locs, Love, Life!

~Mzz Nette

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You Got Your Locks From Where?!

While scrolling through my FB feed this morning I came across an article titled, “Beware Your Dreadlocks May Just Be From The Morgue”.

Wait What

I was like “what?!” As I read the article all kinds of thoughts came to mind. Like, “umm… people do this?” and “hmmm… you mean to tell me someone could be rocking a deceased wo(man)’s locks?!”

We all know that today is all about instant gratification. And I’m sorry to say this, but this is particularly true about Millennials. We want it & we want it now!! However, this new trend, the grafting of locks, has all kinds of crazy written all over it. For instance, growing your own locks is a journey. And in that journey you go through highs & lows (with growing the locks themselves & in life overall). So your locks tell a story. And for someone to take another person’s locks & attach them to their own hair seems like a bad omen waiting to happen. Their hair journey is not your own. And I’ve seen folks cut off their locks for a fresh start. Now why would you want to take someone else’s journey (whether good or bad) and make it your own?!

Additionally, I couldn’t even imagine rocking a deceased wo(man)’s locks. The article does reference a salon that vets the locks before they purchase them; however, I would still be leery of the source. Oh & can you imagine the possibility of getting lice or any other disease that may come from the locks themselves? My assumption is that getting either is unlikely but the thought itself is quite disturbing.

Lastly, one of the things my lock journey has taught me is patience. Instant gratification is awesome but the process of obtaining and practicing patience is a better reward.

Even though I am totally turned off by the idea of grafting someone else’s locks there seems to be some positives. First of all, you don’t have to grow the locks yourself. It can take years to get to a decent length & to have fully locked hair. With this method you get to cut down the amount of time. Additionally, the person selling their matured locks can make a killing from a buyer. Lastly, the person getting the new locks has a new found confidence & gets to fast track the locking process. In that case everyone wins!

So what are your thoughts, would you consider this option?

If you would like to read the article click here.

Locs, Love, Life!

~Mzz Nette

ThrowBack Thursday!!

Happy Spring Folks!! I don’t know about anyone else but for some reason when spring comes around I get into this cleaning/purging frenzy. I overly clean my house, get rid of old clothes and a bunch of things that I really don’t need. Since today is Thursday I think it’s fit to implement a ThrowBack Thursday.

One thing I’ve learned about myself is that I am a picture hoarder. I don’t know why I never like to delete pictures but I have had over 3,000 pictures on my phone at one time, 🙈🙈. And I am ashamed to say this but over half of those pictures are selfies…*don’t judge me lol*.  Anyways as I was deleting hundreds of pictures off my phone when I came across the photo below. It brought a smile to my face. It was the day after I chopped off all of my relaxed hair and joined the Natural Hair Community.

 

Big Chop Pic

Oh what a joy it was to have no hair worries. To wake up and just go. It was a great time in my life because it felt like a fresh start. However, I got the harshest feedback as well. I remember my Father saying how God had given me beautiful hair and now I’m bald. And that he didn’t even recognize me because I looked like a boy. 😭 😭 😭   Oh that comment hit me to my core and I cried for a couple of days afterwards. Eventually the look grew on me and everyone else. After all it was just hair and surely it would grow back. I can honestly say it was one of the best hair decisions I could have made. And I would do it again in a heartbeat.  😊😊.

Locs, Love, Life!

~Mzz Nette

My Lesson On Love!

Love

 

Last night I had a real heart to heart conversation about love. A person shared with me that they get in trouble whenever a person falls in love with them. So of course I asked, what do you mean by that? They responded that whenever folks fall in love, there is a level of expectation that is created. And when they begin to do things “out of love”, they expect the same in return. This conversation actually had me in my thoughts all night and all morning. Asking myself, “do you actually know the true meaning of love?” and “do you honestly know how to truly love?” To be completely honest I don’t know that I ever did or ever have. And if I did, I don’t believe it was to the extent at which I define love now.

I truly believe the act of love is what 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 tells us in the bible. That love is patient and kind. It does not envy or boast. It is not arrogant or rude and it does not insist on its own way. It’s not irritable or resentful and it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things. I’ve read these verses so many times before but it was not until last night that I actually let the words sink into my spirit. All I can say is WOW!

When I think of God’s love for me it reminds me that he paid a debt that I can never repay. When he gave his life for me there were no expectations for me to give my life in return. It was only to follow his commandments and love others just as much as he loves me. Love is truly a self-less act. It is to give and to expect nothing in return. I believe when there is no level of expectation there is no level of disappointment.

In my opinion, this is probably the realist and most heartfelt post I’ve ever written. And it’s probably a post that I will use for accountability purposes now and forever. I will end with these words: Lord my wish is that I can truly learn what it means to love wholeheartedly . To not set a limit on my love. To not keep score. To set an example of how I wish to be loved. To love others the way you love me. To love others despite what they say or do. Ultimately, to love unconditionally!

Locs, Love, Life!

~Mzz Nette

Hidden Figures: A Must See!!

This weekend I had the opportunity to watch Hidden Figures. I remember seeing the previews for this movie a couple of months ago and I could not wait for it to come out. After hearing great reviews about it and actually watching it for myself, I can truly say that I was not disappointed. This movie had my emotions all over the place, happy, angry, sad, excited, to name a few. It’s rare (at least for me) for a movie to evoke that many emotions in a span of a couple of hours. It was simply amazing!

It was befitting for me to watch Hidden Figures on this past weekend because it, in conjunction to Martin Luther King Day, reminded me how far we have come. Reminds me of how hard our ancestors had to fight for us to have the opportunities we have today.  It was a reminder that we should continue to fight for these opportunities and never take for granted those blessings we currently have. Let’s never forget how far we have come and how far we have to go!

Locs, Love, Life!

~Mzz Nette

Did you miss me?!

Man, it has been a minute (well not literally a minute but you understand what I’m trying to say lol) since I’ve posted on this blog. And honestly, I have no valid excuse as to why I have not made an attempt to post. I told myself I would do better but the lazier side of me won.  So as I have said in the past…I will do better!!! 🙂

To begin, Happy New Year!! I hope your new year has started off amazingly well and I hope this year is good to you. I actually look forward to what this year will possibly bring. I can’t say my 2016 was a great year. Many lessons learned and I definitely had some growth opportunities. I am just grateful I made it through.

Do you make New Year’s resolutions? I typically don’t. Simply because I would make them and then by like March I would forget all about accomplishing them. Sad huh?! Nowadays I try to make conscious efforts to do/be better. Like learning a new fact daily. Or committing to reading an entire book (this can be hard for me because I sometimes have the attention span of a child). Helping a friend in need. Or calling my loved ones more often. At times reading my short term and long term goals (as a reminder of the things I need to do to achieve them). Or even re-visiting a dusty old vision board. For me, conscious reminders are just as important as setting goals. In my eyes, as long as you are making an attempt to be better today than you were yesterday, its one more step towards being a greater you.

So cheers to the new year! To new lessons, new growth opportunities, new reminders and new memories! 💋 😘

Locs, Love, Life!

~Mzz Nette

Let Go and Let God!

Happy New Year my good people. I’m ashamed that it has taken me this long to say this to you all but hey better late than never. 😊

The saying “If you want to make God laugh tell him your plans!” is spot on. We make plans for ourselves and then get disappointed when things don’t go our way. You ever wonder why? My guess is that they weren’t your plans to make in the first place. I can say I’m guilty of this. Planning this, planning that but rarely ever asking the man upstairs to plan it for me. So one of my new things this year is to truly “Let Go and Let God!” Maybe then I won’t set myself up for huge disappointments. Cause at the end of the day his plans will always be greater and better than my own. 😊

Locs, Love, Life!

~Mzz Nette